Playing the Victim

PLAYING THE VICTIM: EXPECTING LIFE OWES YOU

Many souls fall into the trap of expecting that life should be easy, free of pain and suffering, and that the universe or God will deliver into their life the perfect partner, house, job, and the list goes on. These souls are not entirely to blame for expecting life to be this way, for we are conditioned as a society that life should deliver us all these things. In between your lives on Earth, you sit down with your spiritual guides and you develop a Soul Plan that will help you to remove the lower self ego from your soul that you have created. This involves: a] repaying karmic debt from past lives, b] learning difficult life lessons, and c] spiritual testing with negative people. When you incarnate to Earth, you do not have the memory of this Soul Plan you agreed to, however it is encoded in your subconscious mind and can be prepared for you in a 25 page document known as Your Divine Soul Plan (www.soulplan.org). Repaying karma, learning difficult life lessons, and spiritual testing with negative people usually involve you experiencing much pain and suffering. Yet this pain and suffering is meant to help you grow spiritually to free you of the lower self ego.

Souls who play the victim feel sorry for themselves whenever they experience pain and suffering. They cannot see that the pain and suffering they are reaping now, is actually the Cosmic Mirror reflecting back the same energy that they sent out to others either in this lifetime or a previous lifetime. These souls reject that life on Earth should include pain and suffering for the purpose of eradicating the ego. And this expectation that life should be free of pain and suffering creates more despair, depression and suicidal thoughts. They do not believe they have created their current karmic situation and therefore do not need to repay karma. They do not believe they can change their outer situation by changing their thoughts and their actions and as a result they give away their power to change their life for the positive.

Anytime you feel sorry for yourself you are playing the victim and expecting life owes you. You usually expect from life – from others – the very thing that you are not giving to others and to yourself. The Cosmic Mirror has been designed to reflect back to you the same energy you send out. For example, if you are highly condemning of others, you will experience others being highly condemning of you. Many feel sorry for themselves when this energy is returned to them and say "Why me?" – choosing to play the victim and not take responsibility for their own creations.

EXERCISE: List two occasions in your life where you have felt sorry for yourself / played the victim. What were your expectations and what were you hoping NOT to have to experience? On a spiritual level why do you believe you had these two difficult / painful experiences?

THE NEEDY ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY

You have a needy addictive personality if your thoughts are continually focused on the expectation of a future high. You have trained your mind to believe that your identity – your survival – depends upon you experiencing highs. You have become a "being of need" and you must continually keep focusing on future high experiences to keep this needy identity alive. The expectation of future highs, and the possibility of getting them, or not getting them, creates emotional upheaval and anxiety. You become a prisoner to your own expectations of the addictive substance fulfilling you. This addictive substance is not always drugs, alcohol, sex or food and is more often external love, praise and recognition. You have become a slave to your new needy identity and you must continually serve it and feed it to keep it alive, until you make the decision to reject this identity and discontinue to believe you are a being of need.

When you redirect the energy of flow from needing to giving then you become a being of give instead of a being of need. You no longer feel lacking or needy inside because you have so much to give.

The more you focus on satisfying your own addictive needs, the more you shut of the flow of Love and Light coming into your soul from your Higher Self and the more empty you feel inside. This is because the original purpose of your mission when you chose to be born into this latest sphere of the Material Universe, was to fill this new sphere with the Love and Light of your Higher Self. You can only achieve this mission when you become one with your Higher Self and become a being of give. The more Love and Light you give to others unconditionally by helping others and giving and supporting others the more Love and Light your Higher Self will send to you via an invisible silver cord that is connected to you always and you in turn will feel fulfilled inside.

Your Higher Self cannot give you Love and Light if you are focusing on the needs of your ego. Your Higher Self respects the Law of Free Will and will not send you Love and Light if you feel unworthy of it, for you are choosing to reject it at a deeper level, and the more you focus on the needs of the ego and ignore your original mission and Higher Self connection, you make the choice to shut off the flow of Love and Light coming into your being and thus you feel empty and sad and unfulfilled. And this becomes a downward spiral, for the greater the emptiness and lack of love you feel inside, the more you focus on the needs of yourself and become self-absorbed and addictive in nature.

EXERCISE: In what ways do you have a needy addictive personality? In what ways do you truly give to others unconditionally without expecting love, recognition, praise or anything at all in return?

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