18. PLAYING THE VICTIM: "EXPECTING" LIFE OWES YOU
Many souls fall into the trap of "expecting" that life should be easy, free of pain and suffering, and that the universe or God will deliver into their life the perfect partner, house, job, and the list goes on. These souls are not entirely to blame for "expecting" life to be this way, for we are conditioned as a society that life should deliver us all these wonderful things.
In between your lives on Earth, you sit down with your spiritual guides and you develop a Life Plan that will help you to remove the Ego - the Lower Self - from your soul that you have created. This involves:
Many souls fall into the trap of "expecting" that life should be easy, free of pain and suffering, and that the universe or God will deliver into their life the perfect partner, house, job, and the list goes on. These souls are not entirely to blame for "expecting" life to be this way, for we are conditioned as a society that life should deliver us all these wonderful things.
In between your lives on Earth, you sit down with your spiritual guides and you develop a Life Plan that will help you to remove the Ego - the Lower Self - from your soul that you have created. This involves:
When you incarnate to Earth, you do not have the memory of this Life Plan, however it is encoded in your subconscious mind - Your Soul. Repaying karma, learning difficult life lessons, and spiritual testing with negative people are 3 processes that usually involve you experiencing much pain and suffering. Yet this pain and suffering is meant to help you grow spiritually - to free you of the Ego - the Lower Self.
Souls who "Play the Victim" feel sorry for themselves when they experience pain and suffering. They cannot see that the pain and suffering they are receiving or reaping now, is actually the Cosmic Mirror reflecting back to them the same energy that they sent out to others either in this lifetime or a previous lifetime.
These souls "reject" that life on Earth should include pain and suffering for the purpose of eradicating the Ego - the Lower Self. And this "expectation" that life should be free of pain and suffering creates more despair, depression and suicidal thoughts. They do not believe they have created their current karmic situation and therefore do not need to repay karma. They do not believe they can change their outer situation by changing their thoughts and their actions and as a result they give away their power to change their life for the positive.
Anytime you feel sorry for yourself - you are "playing the victim" and "expecting" life owes you. You usually expect from life - from others - the very thing that you are not giving to others and to yourself. The Cosmic Mirror has been designed to reflect back to you the same energy you send out. For example, if you are highly condemning of others, you will experience others being highly condemning of you. Many feel sorry for themselves when this energy is returned to them and say "Why me?" - choosing to play the victim.
EXERCISE: List two occasions in your life where you have felt sorry for yourself / played the victim. What were your "expectations" and what were you hoping NOT to have to experience? On a spiritual level why do you believe you had these two difficult / painful experiences?
19. THE "NEEDY" ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY
You have a "needy" addictive personality if your thoughts are continually focused on the "expectation" of a future high. You have trained your mind to believe that your identity - your survival - now "depends" upon you experiencing these highs. You become a being of NEED.
This belief that you are a Being of NEED filters down through the four levels of your mind and your Mental Mind must continually keep focusing on future high experiences to keep the new identity alive. [As shown below].
IDENTITY MIND: I AM a being of NEED. I AM Addicted to ______________.
MENTAL MIND: I focus my thoughts on future high experiences.
EMOTIONAL MIND: I feel excited and elated when I focus my thoughts on the source of the high.
OUTER MIND: I then partake in the source of the high and I feel [temporarily] alive.
This "expectation" of future highs, and the possibility of getting them, or not getting them, creates emotional upheaval and anxiety. You become a "prisoner" to your own "expectations" of the addictive substance fulfilling you. This addictive substance is not always drugs, alcohol, sex or food and is more often external love, praise and recognition.
You become a slave to your new "I NEED" identity that you have created within your own mind. You must continually serve it and "feed" this new "I NEED" identity to "keep it alive" - until you make the decision to reject this false identity and "discontinue" to believe that you are a Being of NEED.
When you redirect the energy of flow from "needing" to "giving" and you replace this false identity with and become the opposite identity: "I AM GIVING SELFLESSLY TO OTHERS WITHOUT EXPECTING ANY ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OR RETURN" then you become a Being of GIVE instead of a Being of NEED. You no longer feel "lacking" or "needy" inside because you have so much to give.
The more you focus on satisfying your own addictive needs - the more you shut of the flow of Love and Light coming into your soul from your Higher Self and the more empty you feel inside. This is because the original purpose of your mission when you chose to be born into this new sphere of Earth - the Material Universe - was to fill this new sphere with the Love and Light of your Higher Self. You can only achieve this mission when you become "as one" with your Higher Self and become a Being of GIVE.
The more Love and Light you "GIVE" to others unconditionally - by helping others, and giving and supporting others - the more Love and Light your Higher Self will send to you via an invisible silver cord that is connected to you always - and YOU in turn will feel fulfilled inside. Your Higher Self will NOT send you Love and Light into your soul if you are focusing on the needs of your Lower Self.
The more you focus on the "needs" of the Lower Self - and ignore your original mission and Higher Self connection - YOU make the "choice" to shut off the flow of Love and Light coming into your Being and thus you feel empty and sad and unfulfilled. And this becomes a downward spiral - for the greater the emptiness and lack of love you feel inside, the more you will focus on the needs of yourself and become "self-absorbed" and addictive in nature.
EXERCISE: In what ways do you have a "needy" addictive personality? In what ways do you truly give to others unconditionally - without expecting love, recognition, praise or anything at all in return?
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1. THE ILLUSION OF SEPARATION IS PART OF OUR SPIRITUAL PURPOSE 2. BELIEVING IN THE ILLUSION OF SEPARATION 3. THE BIRTH OF THE EGO HAPPENED GRADUALLY 4. THE CREATION OF THE 12 PARTS OF THE LOWER SELF EGO 5. TWIN PARTS OF THE LOWER SELF EGO 6. YOUR HIGHER SELF, THE MATERIAL UNIVERSE AND YOU 7. THE CREATION OF YOUR SOUL, YOUR IDENTITY AND THE FOUR LEVELS OF YOUR MIND 8. THE EXPERIENCE OF SEPARATION: GUILT, MISTAKES AND SELF-FORGIVENESS 9. MASTERING FORGIVENESS: A TWO-STEP PROCESS 10. GIVING YOUR LOWER SELF EGO PARTS A VOICE 11. GIVING YOUR LOWER SELF EGO PARTS NEW INFORMATION 12. CHALLENGING INACCURATE LOWER SELF EGO BELIEFS 13. THE BATTLE BETWEEN THE HIGHER SELF AND LOWER SELF EGO 14. TRANSFORMING THE LOWER SELF EGO USING HIGHER SELF MEDITATION 15. EXPECTATION IS THE CAUSE OF ALL FEAR - ALL WORRY 16. EXPECTATION = SUFFERING 17. EXPECTATION AND THE LOWER SELF EGO PARTS 18. PLAYING THE VICTIM: "EXPECTING" LIFE OWES YOU 19. THE "NEEDY" ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY 20. CHASING THE HAPPINESS HIGH 21. CHASING THE PRAISE-RECOGNITION HIGH 22. CHASING THE LOVE HIGH 23. THE CURSE OF PERFECTION 24. OVERCOMING FEAR: A HOUSE OF CARDS 25. THE BUDDHA CONSCIOUSNESS: AN OVERVIEW 26. HOW DOES BUDDHA CONSCIOUSNESS DIFFER TO CHRIST CONSCIOUSNESS? 27. USING MEDITATION TO ACHIEVE COMPLETE NON-ATTACHMENT: BUDDHAHOOD 28. REMOVING THE "UNREALITY ZONE" IN YOUR MIND BY REMOVING "ALL" EXPECTATIONS 29. TUNING YOURSELF TO THE TRUE REALITY OF YOUR LIFE 30. A BELIEF IN SEPARATION IS THE CAUSE OF ALL SUPERIORITY AND INFERIORITY 31. "NOT" BELIEVING IN SEPARATION IS A TEST EVERY SOUL MUST FACE 32. MAIN REASONS SOULS BELIEVE IN ILLUSION OF SEPARATION 33. A BELIEF IN SEPARATION AND THE IDENTITY MIND 34. SEPARATION = HATE 35. BELIEF IN SEPARATION AND THE LOWER SELF EGO PARTS 36. THE ANTI-CHRIST USES 8 TOOLS TO KEEP YOU TRAPPED IN THE "ILLUSION OF SEPARATION" 37. ANTI-CHRIST TOOL TO KEEP YOU TRAPPED: YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH 38. ANTI-CHRIST TOOL TO KEEP YOU TRAPPED: CRITICIZING AND COMPLAINING 39. ANTI-CHRIST TOOL TO KEEP YOU TRAPPED: KEEPING HATE BOTTLED UP 40. ANTI-CHRIST TOOL TO KEEP YOU TRAPPED: UNFORGIVENESS 41. ANTI-CHRIST TOOL TO KEEP YOU TRAPPED: JUDGING OTHER SOULS AS "NOT LIKEABLE" 42. ANTI-CHRIST TOOL TO KEEP YOU TRAPPED: JUDGING OTHER SOULS AS "LIKEABLE" 43. ANTI-CHRIST TOOL TO KEEP YOU TRAPPED: COMPETITION 44. ANTI-CHRIST TOOL TO KEEP YOU TRAPPED: FINDING FAULT IN OTHER SOULS 45. THE CHRIST CONSCIOUSNESS: AN OVERVIEW 46. THE CHRIST CONSCIOUSNESS AND THE LAWS OF CAUSE & EFFECT AND KARMA 47. THE CHRIST CONSCIOUSNESS AND THE COSMIC MIRROR 48. THE CHRIST CONSCIOUSNESS AND THE OMEGA CONTRACTING FORCE 49. COMING INTO ONENESS WITH YOUR ENEMIES 50. FORGIVE YOUR ENEMIES 51. COMING INTO ONENESS WITH YOUR HIGHER BEING 52. THE LADDER OF CHRIST CONSCIOUSNESS 53. THE IMPORTANCE OF DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE LESSONS AND KARMA 54. RE-FRAGMENTING YOUR SOUL AND REMOVING NEGATIVE ENTITIES 55. ADVANCED TEACHINGS AND STUDY 56. DOWNLOADABLE PDF VERSION OF THE EGO COURSE