Chasing Happiness

CHASING THE HAPPINESS HIGH

Many people on Earth have lost their connection to their Higher Self and the knowledge of their original mission and have increasingly felt unfulfilled and empty inside by focusing on the needs of the lower self ego. This feeling of emptiness has affected the mass consciousness of humanity to the point where society is completely focused on ways to fill up this emptiness and unfulfilled state of being. Society has invented many myths that you are entitled to fill ups that include the perfect love partner, the perfect happy-ever-after life, the perfect rewarding career, the perfect house and family, the perfect everything. What happens though is when you get the perfect partner, or house, or job, etc, your mind goes into a high"elated state in the beginning, yet after the high feeling has worn off – which always happens – YOU STILL FEEL EMPTY INSIDE.

Society has conditioned itself to chase after and expect an elusive permanent happiness that can never be. And 99% of people on Earth have fallen for this lie that happiness is an achievable state that will permanently fulfill them. This is why people who chase after the perfect love, the perfect job, the perfect this and that, temporarily get a happiness high fix, yet have to continually keep looking and searching for and expecting more and more happiness high's to come into their life. This creates a greater hunger and you soon realize that its appetite can never be satisfied. What is worse is the more you fall into this trap of chasing the happiness high – the more you focus your attention away from your Higher Self and its Love and Light – and the more empty you feel inside. You also feel angry and disappointed and miserable that your life is not the happy-ever-after you were told by society it would be.

Many in this situation blame God and others around them that their life is so miserable. These souls usually fail to see they have been chasing their tail and taking themselves further away from their centre of fulfillment and peace.

EXERCISE: Make a list of things you were told by society would make you happy.
EXERCISE: Make a list of things you "expected" would make you happy when you got them, but they didn't.

CHASING THE PRAISE-RECOGNITION HIGH

Human society is largely focused on the Carrot and Stick mentality. If you are good and do what is expected of you, you will be praised and rewarded with the Carrot. If you are bad and don't do what is expected of you, then you will be punished or criticized or ostracized and get the Stick. This fear-based Carrot and Stick culture is practiced and supported in our schooling system, in our politics, in our workplaces, our media and in our own homes. You are conditioned by society to expect either praise or criticism in everything you do. This creates an inner anxiety within because praise and criticism are both judgments of you. If you were to ask 100 people if they liked to be judged very few if any would say they do. Yet when you seek out praise from others, because you have been conditioned by society to do so, you are then asking for these people to pass judgment on you.

This very act of seeking out praise and recognition from others is a declaration that you do not know your own worth and value. You are asking others to let you know if you are ok or not ok. When you gear your mind to expecting others around you to continually feed back to you whether you are ok or not ok, two things happen. The first thing that happens is you give away your power to the people judging you. You feel vulnerable and frightened awaiting their continued good or bad verdict. The second thing that happens is: you send out an invisible cord of expectation to every person you seek praise from in anticipation of their judgment. You are like a puppy dog waiting to be praised or scolded by its owner. This cord of expectation means you are at the mercy of whether the person you are attached to gives you a good or bad verdict. If you receive a good verdict – praise – then you feel a high. And this is the high you are chasing. If the person you are attached to gives you a bad verdict – criticism – then you feel a low.

Praise and criticism are two sides of the one coin. If you hand over your power to others to judge you, then you will inevitably experience both the praise and the criticism, the highs and the lows. You will keep yourself in a place of expectation and anxiety, never knowing from one moment to the next whether you will be told that you are ok or the next told that you are not ok. This invisible cord of expectation to each person around you keeps you a prisoner of their thoughts they have of you. If you do not want to remain a prisoner any longer you must remove these cords of expectation and free yourself.

The questions you need to ask are: Do I want to keep giving away my power to others? Do I want others to continually keep judging me and letting "me" know whether I'm OK or not OK. Do I want to live my life in fear of what other people think of me? If you have children or work with children: If they ask you: "Is this good? Have I done a good job? Look what I did!" Don't praise them. Ask them instead: "How do YOU think you did? Are YOU happy with what you've done?" Teach them to only ever evaluate themselves.

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